2 weeks ago she wouldn't look at him

Now she won't leave the room

Author

Klaudia Slosarova
June 08, 2025

One of my clients shared this with me:

“I’d just folded the laundry. Cleaned the kitchen. Took the kids out so she could have space.

She walked past me like I wasn’t even there.

That’s when it hit me. She didn’t feel helped.

She felt tension.”

Stu

He wasn’t being lazy. He wasn’t slacking. He just didn’t realise how he was doing it was louder than what he was doing.

And that’s the shift he made.

Not adding more effort. Not finding better words. Just learning how to show up without adding pressure.

Two weeks later? She was warmer. Less guarded. Leaning in again.

This happens all the time.

Men think the answer is another task. Another nice gesture. Another well-timed “I’m trying.”

But it’s not the effort that’s broken.

It’s the experience she has of you in the moment.

You don’t need a new strategy. You need to stop showing up like she’s a problem to solve and start walking into the room like a man she doesn’t have to brace herself around.

That’s the shift. And once it happens?

She starts responding to you again not the checklist.

P.S. WOAH. I woke up to a number of you saying:

= DO IT

So I guess... we’re doing it.

I mentioned I might run a live workshop on “Do the Right Thing When She Pulls Away” June 20th.

If you missed it and want in? Reply with “DO IT 2x” and I’ll double do it.

To your success,

Klaudia