All your efforts have failed?

Ever tried making two different dinners for two tiny humans? Both screaming for food and naps?

Yeah. That was my kitchen today.

Three-year-old wants his veggies blended. Like he’s some kind of king. One-year-old fights sleep like it’s his job. Pans everywhere. Half of them should be in the trash.

I felt like a circus clown spinning plates. Except the plates were plastic. And covered in carrots.

Then I realized how dumb it was. I’m sweating, doing backflips, trying to play “Super mom.”

For what?

My three-year-old could eat normal food.

So I stopped. Scooped up my own food. Gave it to her. She ate. No meltdown. No drama.

I wasted all that effort. Not because I didn’t work hard. But because I worked on the wrong problem.

That’s what I see men do in their marriages too.

They knock themselves out “doing more.” Buy stuff. Plan big date nights. Try to “fix” things with logic. Watch another video. Read another book.

All that effort? If you're not solving what actually matters to her

You’ll either do nothing or worse, take action that backfires.

Because here’s the part that stings: The harder you try to fix the wrong thing, the more you look like a man who just doesn’t get it.

And that’s the moment respect disappears.

So if you’re trying everything and nothing’s changing

Maybe you’re making dinner for two toddlers too.

Don’t waste another night fixing problems that aren’t even the problem.

I made a 4-minute video breaking down why men’s efforts backfire (and what to do instead so she finally feels it’s real again).

Klaudia

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