Are you fighting the wrong enemy?

Most men think their marriage is failing because she’s too emotional.

“She cries at nothing. She blows things out of proportion. She’s impossible to reason with.”

So he points the finger.
Every fight ends with him saying:
“See? This is exactly why we can’t talk.”

And for a moment, he feels like he’s proved his point.
But she just goes quiet.

Ever notice how the more you call her “too emotional,” the less she speaks and the faster she retreats into silence?

That’s not her admitting guilt. That’s her protecting herself.

Miss this and:
– Every conversation feels like a courtroom where she’s on trial.
– She stops confiding in you because she’s bracing for judgment.
– You win the argument but lose the marriage.

Every time you frame her as “the problem,” you stop being her partner and start being her prosecutor.

And when her own husband feels unsafe, she’ll find safety somewhere else.

A girlfriend. A therapist. Eventually, a lawyer.

Stay stuck here, and the story plays out the same:
At first, she still argues back. Then she stops.
At first, she still cries. Then she doesn’t bother.
At first, she still cares enough to be hurt. Then she goes numb.

By the time you finally realize she wasn’t the villain she was just exhausted

You’ll be the one left standing in the empty courtroom, arguing with no one.

Klaudia

P.S. If you’re tired of the blame game and ready to flip the script, reply “TRUCE and I’ll send you the details.