"I need space, not solutions."

Ever tried building a Lego castle with a kid? It can get messy real quick.

So there I am, sitting on the floor with my daughter. She's got blocks and a blueprint, eager to craft her masterpiece.

My instincts kick in. I start putting pieces together, thinking I'm being the hero. But then it hits me.

I'm not helping her; I'm making her rely on me.

She pauses, looks up, and says, "I can do it, Mom." That was my light bulb moment. I realized doing it for her meant taking away her chance to learn.

Got me thinking—this isn't much different from our relationships.

Ever feel like you're trying so hard, but she’s drifting away?

You might be doing too much.

In relationships, just like Lego, everyone needs space to figure things out.

When you take over all the “fixing,” she doesn’t get the chance to feel seen, trusted, or capable.

And when she doesn’t feel these things, she starts pulling away.

Resentment builds, trust erodes, and eventually, you’re left wondering why she’s stopped meeting you halfway.

But when you step back and let her handle her blocks, everything changes.

She feels empowered to speak up, handle challenges, and reconnect with you on her own terms. Trust grows, attraction deepens, and respect returns.

Instead of pushing her further away, you create space for her to move closer willingly.

Time to rethink your role in fixing things.

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Until next time,

Klaudia

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