Is Her Loyalty Gone or Just Hiding?

One of my clients, Mike, shared a story that stuck with me.

He walked into a meeting with a potential client, a big one. The stakes were high, and the deal wasn’t guaranteed. Mike didn’t hold back. He showed up with solutions, ideas, and enthusiasm, all without asking for a single thing in return.

Months later, the client signed a long-term deal. Mike asked why they chose him. Their answer was simple:

“Because you showed us we could trust you before we gave you a reason to.”

That’s when it clicked for Mike: trust isn’t something you wait for, it’s something you create.

Marriage works the same way.

If you’re waiting for her to prove loyalty, she’s likely waiting for you too. If you’re both waiting for the other to move first, you’ll stay stuck in the same cycle.

Here’s the thing:

• If you stay true to your values, your wife will see your integrity and feel inspired.

• If she feels inspired, she’ll feel safe to share her goals and dreams.

• If you support her goals, she’ll feel valued and appreciated.

• If she feels valued, her trust in you will deepen.

• If her trust deepens, your bond strengthens, and her loyalty grows.

Loyalty isn’t a demand; it’s a response. It’s not about waiting for her to prove herself. It’s about you taking the lead and creating a relationship she wants to be part of.

Skip the shift, and:

• She stops talking about her day, convinced you’re not interested.

• Moments that used to bring laughter now feel heavy with silence.

• You start noticing her scrolling her phone during dinner instead of making eye contact

Make the shift, and:

• She starts sharing little things, like her favorite childhood memory, as if she’s rediscovering how to connect with you.

• Conversations at dinner become about what excites her, not just logistical plans for the week.

• You catch her smiling at you over coffee in the morning a real smile, not a polite one.

"What if I make the first move, and she doesn’t respond? Am I just wasting my time?", I hear you ask.

Would you stop watering a plant just because it doesn’t bloom overnight? Or would you keep nurturing it, knowing growth takes time?

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Until next time,

Klaudia

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