Keep proving your point?

I thought I had it all under control.

Arms full of groceries, I rushed to catch the elevator.

And then bam.

An orange slipped. Then another. Before I knew it, they were bouncing down the hallway like they had a personal mission to escape.

So there I was, scrambling after them like I was in a cartoon, arms still overloaded, juggling bags while trying to grab something rolling further away.

And the more I rushed? The worse it got.

At some point, I just stopped. Watched them roll. And realized… I was making it worse.

That moment stuck with me.

Because this is exactly what happens in marriage.

You sense your wife pulling away. So you chase:

-More texts. More calls. More “Hey, what’s wrong?”

-More doing things “for” her, hoping she’ll notice.

-More forced conversations that feel heavier every time.

And just like those oranges, the more you chase, the further she rolls away.

Because this isn’t about more effort.

It’s about how she feels when you’re around.

She doesn’t need you scrambling after her, trying to “fix” things. She needs to feel something different when she looks at you.

Miss this shift, and:

-Every talk about the relationship pushes her further away.

-Every kind gesture feels like a transaction.

-Every attempt to “prove” yourself feels like pressure.

But when you get this right:

-She stops bracing for another forced conversation and actually wants to talk.

-She notices your actions not because you pointed them out, but because they actually feel different.

-She stops rolling further away because she’s naturally drawn back in.

I learned the hard way that chasing doesn’t fix things.

It just makes you look desperate.

And in marriage? It kills attraction faster than anything.

The key isn’t to chase.

It’s to flip how she sees you- to be the man she wants to move toward.

Want to stop chasing and start attracting?

Reply, “Clarity” and i will send you the details.

Your move,

Klaudia

P.S. "I kept chasing, over-explaining, and trying to prove I’d be thee for her but it only pushed her further away. One call with Klaudia made me realize the moment I stopped chasing, she stopped running."- Chris

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