5 Ways To Show Empathy With Minumum Effort

Get heard Every Time

Author

Klaudia Slosarova
July 23, 2024 • Estimated Reading Time: 2 minutes


Feeling lost with your wife's withdrawal?

You're not alone. Many of my clients know empathy is important, but struggle to put it into action:

“How can I get her to open up without pushing her away?”

“How can I understand what's going on in her head?"

“Am I saying the right things to show I actually care?”


5 Reasons You're Struggling With Empathy:

1) Emotional Blindspot:

—>Social pressure, unhealthy relationship models, “Man up Culture” or bottled-up feelings make it hard to understand your wife’s hurt which leads to miscommunication

2) Self- Focused Tunnel:

—> Your problems block her frustration. She feels unheard and withdraws further.

3) Logic trap:

—> You miss the hidden message. She feels dismissed

4. Vulnerability seen as weakness:

—>Holding back emotions builds a wall. Distance grows wider

5. Social Cue mystery: —>You miss her body language signals. She feels unseen and unimportant


5 Ways to show empathy to get your wife talking today:
1) Phone Down, Eyes Up: During meals and talks, ditch the phone/DND mode
2) Track Your Progress: Keep it simple. Jot down "3 acts of empathy today" on a sticky note
3) Offer Help, Not Solutions: Listen to your wife and she'll tell you everything you need to know
4) Small Gestures, Big Impact: Offer a shoulder rub, and make her favourite drink. Show you care
5) Validate, Don't Dismiss: Let her know her feelings are heard. "That sounds rough." Give her a hug.

Why it works:

Understanding your wife’s perspective through small, consistent acts of empathy helps her:

  • Share the real issues

  • Change her narrative about you

  • Move closer to you

This leads to less stress, fewer arguments, deeper connection, and better teamwork

Until next week,

Klaudia

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