Still Competing With Her Phone Every Night?

Last night, I tried talking to my kid while he was on his iPad.
Didn’t matter what I said.

I could’ve shouted.
I could’ve begged.
He was locked in.

That’s your wife right now.

Eyes down. Guard up. Already halfway gone before you open your mouth.

And every time you try harder to get her attention, she doesn’t feel loved.
She feels smothered.

Not strength.
Not leadership.
Just noise.

You think leaning in, talking more, or grabbing for connection is progress. It’s not.

Here’s what it actually creates:
– She hides deeper behind the screen
– She feels relief being distracted from you
– She loses more respect every time you compete with her phone

You’re not leading. You’re chasing. And she can feel it.

Here’s how my clients flip this fast (without begging, yelling, or pulling the phone away):

Lower the chase – Stop acting like the screen is your rival.
Shift the presence – Become the man she wants to look up for.
Flip the pattern – Lead in a way that makes the phone less interesting than you.

What changes?

You stop competing with a screen.
She stops hiding behind it.
The room feels alive again, even without words.

That shift?

It can sound like this:
“She actually set her phone down and looked at me for the first time in months.”- M

“But what if she says she’s just tired and keeps scrolling?”

Right.
And your trash should take itself out because you don’t feel like it.

If you’re tired of fighting for her attention and ready for a reset, reply “PHONE.”
I’ll send you what you need.

To your success,
Klaudia