Still Flipping the Switch in the Dark?

Last night, I came home and flipped the light switch. Nothing.

The harder I pressed, the darker it stayed.

Turns out, the bulb was dead.

That’s your wife right now. Flat. Checked out. Already planning a life without you.

And every time you try harder at the door, bigger smile, louder “hey honey” she doesn’t feel warmth. She feels forced.

Not comfort. Not safety. Just performance.

You think effort is progress. It’s not.

Here’s what it actually creates:

– She barely looks up when you walk in

– She avoids lingering near you

– She feels the act and loses more respect every night

You’re not leading. You’re performing. And she can feel it.

Here’s how my clients flip that moment at the door in 3 steps:

1 Lower the act

She doesn’t need fake hype, she needs to see the real you.

2 Shift the presence

Show up in a way that doesn’t make her brace.

3 Flip the signal

Lead the room so she actually wants to look at you.

What changes?

You stop dreading the walk through the door. She stops giving you the cold shoulder. The room lightens without you saying a word.

That shift?

It can sound like this: “She actually smiled when I walked in. First time in months.”

“But what if she just stays flat, and I keep trying?”

Right. And your car should start if you just keep turning the dead key.

If you’re tired of dead doorways and ready for a reset, reply “DOOR.” I’ll send you what you need.

To your success,

Klaudia