Why Rebuilding Trust Starts with Her Emotions—Not Solutions

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Imagine you’re trying to fix a broken appliance. You approach it logically, with tools and solutions. But when it comes to your marriage, that approach doesn’t work.

Women don’t respond to logic. You’re trying to fix your marriage the way you’d solve any problem—logically, practically, and with solutions. But that’s not how women reconnect. Women respond to how they feel.

That’s where my client Marco was stuck with his wife, Rachel. Every time she shared her emotions, he’d jump in with a fix. And every time, she felt more disconnected. Why? Because she didn’t need a solution—she needed to feel heard.

So we made a change. Instead of focusing on solutions, Marco started focusing on how Rachel felt.

Here’s how he did it:

1) Ask about her feelings, not the problem – Instead of jumping to solutions, Marco started asking, “How does this make you feel?” This allowed her to open up emotionally, rather than him trying to "fix" it.

2) Read her emotions, not just her words – He began noticing her body language. If she seemed distant, he’d ask, “You seem upset. What’s going on?” This showed he was paying attention to her feelings, not just the issue.

3) Validate, don’t fix – When Rachel expressed her emotions, Marco reflected back: “It sounds like you’re feeling overwhelmed about everything, is that right?” This made her feel understood and supported.

The result? 

“When I shifted from trying to fix everything to understanding how she felt, everything changed,” Marco said.

Why it works:  

- Women need to feel emotionally secure before they reconnect.

- When you understand her feelings, you respond in ways that build trust.

- Once trust is restored, the emotional connection follows naturally.

If Marco hadn’t made this shift, the gap between him and Rachel would’ve kept growing. She would’ve felt unseen, and eventually, that distance could’ve become permanent.

Stop trying to solve your marriage like it’s a problem to fix. Women reconnect through emotions, not logic.

Want to learn more about how to make that shift? Check out my coaching reviews and take the first step toward building trust the right way.

Until next week,

Klaudia

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